Hi Reader

When I start working with a new client, one of the first things I try to figure out is: what are they ready, willing, and able to do right now?

These three words sound simple, but they explain almost every success and every failure I've seen in over a decade of coaching. (and it took me years and 100s of clients to really understand the nuance)

Let me break them down.

Ready: This is internal. It means you genuinely want it. Not because your spouse said so, not because your doctor scared you, but because something inside you has shifted.

Here's the truth: I have people very close to me who know exactly what I do. They know I've helped thousands of people lose weight and improve their health. They are overweight. They are not healthy. And they have never once asked me for help. Why? Because they are not ready. And if someone isn't ready, no amount of information, plans, or coaching can help them.

Willing: This is where it gets interesting. A lot of people are ready, meaning they want it, but then comes the trade-off.

If you are going to do something, you will have to exchange your time, your money, and your energy in some combination. And here's the catch: those 30 minutes you need for a workout? They're already allocated to something in your life. If that something feels more valuable or more urgent to you, you won't make the trade.

Imagine someone gifts you a coaching program. The money part is taken care of. But you still need to invest 30 minutes to talk to your coach and another 30 minutes to follow through. If you're not willing to trade that time and energy, even a free program won't work.

Willingness is a choice. And it's yours to make.

Able: This is where most people get stuck, and it's also where most people blame the wrong thing.

When people fail to stay consistent or execute their plan, they blame motivation. They blame willpower. They think they're not disciplined enough or that something is fundamentally wrong with them. This is where they give up.

But here's what's actually happening: they may be ready and willing, but they don't have the ability. Ability is built on skills.

You might not have the skill to prioritize your time so you can carve out 30 minutes. You might not have the skill to say no to someone or something, even when you know you should. Your body might not be physically ready for the exercise you're trying to do. You might not know what exercises to do or how to move safely.

These aren't character flaws. They're skill gaps. And skill gaps can be filled.

This is where real coaching comes in.

If your coach just sends you a plan and says "go do it," that's not coaching. That's plan delivery.

A real coach assesses what you're ready for, what you're willing to do, and then identifies what abilities you need to build. Even though the goal is health and fitness, the skills you might need are deeper: planning, prioritizing, preparing, saying no, managing your energy. These are the soft skills that actually determine whether your health plan succeeds or fails.

So if something isn't working for you right now, ask yourself:

Is the problem readiness? That has to come from inside.

Is the problem willingness? That's a choice only you can make.

Is the problem ability? That's where the right support can change everything.

I'd love to hear where you feel stuck with your health/fitness and give you a specific direction. Hit reply and let me know.

To your health,

—
​Dhaval Bhadeshiya​
High Performance, Stress & Recovery Coach for Senior Corporate Executives

• American Council of Exercise Certified Personal Trainer
• Precision Nutrition Certified Nutrition Coach
• Precision Nutrition Certified Sleep, Stress Management, and Recovery Coach,
• & Precision Nutrition Certified Master Health Coach